tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post113919431506569379..comments2023-10-23T16:03:30.370-04:00Comments on JUST A HIPPIE GYPSY: Running with sissorsalphawomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12788721975727895601noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post-1139415551881537512006-02-08T11:19:00.000-05:002006-02-08T11:19:00.000-05:00Possibly the hardest avenue that we have to take i...Possibly the hardest avenue that we have to take in life is to give up our independence. I watch as the bevy of my elderly relatives one by one take that path at varying ages. <BR/>My own Mother, who has Parkinson's, lived with me until Katrina and her Aftermath hit. My Mom is now living with a grandchild that is a newlywed. Mom has an attendent that stays with her when everyone is at work. She accepts the help from the homecare worker more easily than she accepts care from her children. It is very frustrating for all of us.<BR/>In my home Mom became very passive aggressive, she had very selective hearing and would never commit to a decision even on what she would like for lunch. Mom was overly grateful for the first 6 mos, then as she realized the permanency of the situation she became depressed. I had an attendent to come in and help with her personal hygiene and enabling both of us to get a break.<BR/>Mom is doing the same pattern at my nephew's. Spreading out the care does not always work. Her next living arrangement will be with my brother. She will have a full time attendent except when he is home in the evenings. We are hoping that this works for her best mental state and gives her a sense of independence.<BR/>I apologize for the lengthy post. I think what I have learned over the last few years is that love and patience is absolutely necessary. What keeps them alive is the fighting spirit. I wish you the best!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post-1139369498243688792006-02-07T22:31:00.000-05:002006-02-07T22:31:00.000-05:00I would love to have seen your grandma and the Gra...I would love to have seen your grandma and the Grammy in battle of wills.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05566267303671253480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post-1139331407837450072006-02-07T11:56:00.000-05:002006-02-07T11:56:00.000-05:00I think it's awful how our parents' society formed...I think it's awful how our parents' society formed in them that unshakeable independence (that becomes crankiness as they age) and the conviction that they will be a burden on us when they grow old. Why does our society not value old people? This is obviously something that is not recent, since our parents are so screwed up by it, as were their parents. Some of the problems with American society are very old and run very deep...Lisa :-]https://www.blogger.com/profile/02237889098638895390noreply@blogger.com