tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post1772126115185066627..comments2023-10-23T16:03:30.370-04:00Comments on JUST A HIPPIE GYPSY: Evil is as Evil doesalphawomanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12788721975727895601noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post-74118072407720512532009-06-06T10:18:39.776-04:002009-06-06T10:18:39.776-04:00I recognize these feelings. Mine isn't so much...I recognize these feelings. Mine isn't so much the stepdaughter as trying to fill the shoes of the deceased wife with the widow. Am I resentful. At first...then I realized either it's acceptable to be who I am and not the shadow of someone else. Does it cause problems - all the fricking time. <br />I'm sorry you have to deal with being on the outside. I think after 12 years there should of been some more give than take on the other side of the equation. (Hugs)IndigoSage Ravenwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17143502548162174269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post-45091834235983662342009-06-06T10:08:58.393-04:002009-06-06T10:08:58.393-04:00I am going to send you an email on this entry. Pri...I am going to send you an email on this entry. Private stuff I want to share. I am sorry that she does not appreciate you and grateful that you have a daughter who does.Nellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06927983874624510031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post-60404095672000369252009-06-05T14:53:22.055-04:002009-06-05T14:53:22.055-04:00It took my step-daughter until she was 26 to like ...It took my step-daughter until she was 26 to like me. Now that she is 34, she might even love me. She has related to me that she knew she was a bitch to me when she was growing up, and has acknowledged all the things I did for her during that time. It was a very sweet song when she sang it. Your time will come, maybe not for many more years, but it will come.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11731276173410889180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post-44794278946885321602009-06-05T09:43:34.815-04:002009-06-05T09:43:34.815-04:00I fear I head in the evil step mom direction. I a...I fear I head in the evil step mom direction. I am getting remarried in Oct. He has two, I have two. The daughter is old enough that I dont really feel that with her but I do with his son and I usually win over the males with no problem. I hope I can get "over" this feeling.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post-4113117818723438402009-06-04T23:33:52.727-04:002009-06-04T23:33:52.727-04:00Just hang in there. I wish this was better for yo...Just hang in there. I wish this was better for you.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641264346663533706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post-34085612694951230932009-06-04T23:14:29.831-04:002009-06-04T23:14:29.831-04:00Oh, Mary, I'm so sorry. My daughter was so pr...Oh, Mary, I'm so sorry. My daughter was so prickly through adolescence that when she wanted to go back East to college (thousands of miles away), I worked hard to make it happen for her because I knew we needed to separate, though I shed so many tears through four years. Many, many times I had to remind myself that I was the grown-up in the relationship (although there certainly were times when I was not). She is now 26 and even though she can still get prickly with me, she says 'love you' every time we hang up the phone. At least this young woman is your stepdaughter and not your daughter. I am reminded of Anne Lamott (if you don't know her, she writes so beautifully, honestly, and humorously on faith, Jesus, grace, and so on--you would love her) when she wrote that she's not one of those forgiving Christians. Hopefully, there is someplace you can write about this or someone you can discuss it with. <br />P.S. You are definitely not evil!*debbi*https://www.blogger.com/profile/04686342184813596517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6772849.post-66421887852710950222009-06-04T22:33:35.610-04:002009-06-04T22:33:35.610-04:00It's tough... no, almost impossible... to sque...It's tough... no, almost impossible... to squelch those old resentments.<br /><br />Mine may not be anything like yours, but they lie here below the surface.Donna. Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393352099473686196noreply@blogger.com